“Should I send you back a copy of the ‘Break-up Mix’ CD you made for me years back??”
That’s the email I received from my good and old friend Nicole Miale, after she followed my venting posts on Facebook for a few days. Ah, the Break-up Mix. It’s been around so long—many, many years. What started out as a short cassette of music to hate boys to matured into 12 CD tracks of angry girl singers and finally evolved into a 39-song playlist that has made its way back and forth between me and my girls all these years, and has been called by such names as the “Why He Sucks,” “You Should See the Other Guy,” “He’s Her Problem Now,” “What Was I Thinking,” and my favorite, “The Girl Power” playlist. I’m not even sure Nicole has the most current version.
Anyway, there was no break-up this week. Just a lot of misunderstanding, miscommunication, and, well, untruths. It wasn’t about a love relationship gone bad; it was about a friendship gone wrong. But this blog post isn’t about that. It’s about the music. Because Nicole’s email prompted me to unearth this piece of musical history.
Ladies, when a man does you wrong, don’t sit there and play maudlin songs about how you want him back, because in all likelihood, you don’t. You want to play songs by sassy, sarcastic and angry girls that deserve better and are hell bent on getting it. This blog is about finding inspiration when you least expect it, and boy, can you be inspired when you’re pissed off and spittin’ mad. Therefore, I present to you the “Girl Power” playlist. Download the songs for yourself. These songs are great to drive to, work out to, break stuff to.
And let me know your favorite songs so I can add them to the list—as you can see, they need to be by women or at least bands with female singers, and be fairly upbeat. The play order pretty much takes you through the first stages of pre-breakup—when you know things aren’t right and it’s going nowhere—through the threats, grief, anger, rebound boys, vindictiveness and on to the final stages of oh-so-happy-he’s-out-of-my-life. I already know it needs more Alanis and that Adele must be added, but I bet there are tons of great songs missing, and Nicole and I need to know them. So be sure to comment!
And for the last time, if you’re reading this, and you think this is about you, it’s not. So get over yourself. This list is comprised of many breakups, many boys and many besties, so just kick back and enjoy the fun.
1. Turn Me On by Vitamin C: “Are you gonna turn me on? Or are you gonna turn on me?”
2. Better Be Good to Me by Tina Turner: It’s Tina—what more is there to say? Snarl it, Tina! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qyU7BbQSm98
“OH YOU BETTER BE GOOD TO ME
THAT`S HOW IT`S GOT TO BE NOW
CAUSE I DON`T HAVE THE TIME FOR YOUR OVER LOADED LINES
YES YOU BETTER BE GOOD TO ME
AND I REALLY DON`T SEE
WHY IT`S SO HARD TO BE
GOOD TO ME
AND I DON`T UNDERSTAND
WHAT`S YOUR PLAN?
THAT YOU CAN`T BE
GOOD TO ME”
3. I Hate Myself for Loving You by Joan Jett
4. Piece of My Heart by Janis Joplin
5. No More Words by Berlin
6. It’s Not Right But It’s Okay by Whitney Houston: Oh Whitney, you may be a drug addict, but you been WRONGED, girl!
“It’s not right
But it’s okay
I’m gonna make it anyway
Pack your bags up and leave
Don’t you dare come running back to me
It’s not right But it’s okay
I’m gonna make it anyway
Close the door behind you
Leave your key
I’d rather be alone Than unhappy”
7. Leave (Get Out) by JoJo: “You said that you would treat me right but you were just a waste of time.” Hell yeah!
8. Breakin’ Dishes by Rihanna:
“I’m super cool, I’ve been a fool
But now I’m hot and baby you’re gonna get it
Now I ain’t trippin’, I ain’t twisted
I ain’t demented, well just a little bit
I’m kicking ass, I’m taking names
I’m on a flame, don’t come home babe
I’m breakin’ dishes up in here All night (uh huh)
I ain’t gonna stop until I see police lights (uh huh)
I’m a fight a man (tonight)
9. Breakin’ Up by Rilo Kiley
10. Don’t Leave Me This Way by Thelma Houston
11. Give Me All Your Lovin Or I Will Kill You by Macy Gray:
OH, Macy, you so CRAZY!!!
“c’mon and gimme all your lovin’ or I will kill you put one through your head gimme all your lovin’ or I will kill you and cry when you’re dead”
12. Heartbreaker by Pat Benatar
13. Goodbye to You by Patty Smythe
14. Goodbye to You by Michelle Branch
15. Survivor by Destiny’s Child:
“Now that you are out of my life, I’m so much better,
You thought that I’d be weak without ya, But I’m stronger,
You thought that I’d be broke without ya, But I’m richer,
You thought that I’d be sad without ya, I laugh harder,
You thought I wouldn’t grow without ya, Now I’m wiser,
You thought that I’d be helpless without ya, But I’m smarter,
You thought that I’d be stressed without ya, But I’m chillin’”
18. Not Big by Lily Allen:
“Now listen I think you and me have come to the end of our time,
What’d you want some kind of reaction? Well, Okay, that’s fine,
Alright, how would it make you feel if I said that you never ever made me cum?
In the year and a half that we spent together, Yeah, I never really had much fun.”
19. Are You Happy Now? By Michelle Branch
20. Let ‘Er Rip by Dixie Chicks:
Y’know when the boy thinks he’s breaking your heart and makes a big production of the whole thing? Yeah, the Chicks know it, too!
“Let ‘er rip, let it fly Come on baby, say it, do you think I’m gonna cry
I ain’t about to bawl, and I ain’t gonna die
So if you’re gonna say goodbye, don’t take all day and night
Let ‘er rip, let it fly”
21. I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor: The original, the classic, everyone on the dance floor!
22. I’m Every Woman by Chaka Khan
23. RESPECT by Aretha Franklin
24. Bitch by Meredith Brooks
25. You Oughtta Know by Alanis Morissette
26. Gives You Hell (original by the All-American Rejects) as sung by Glee cast:
“Truth be told I miss you
Truth be told I’m lying
When you see my face I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell
When you walk my way I hope it gives you hell, I hope it gives you hell”
27. Fighter by Christina Aguilera:
Makes me that much stronger
Makes me work a little bit harder
Makes me that much wiser
So thanks for making me a fighter
Made me learn a little bit faster
Made my skin a little bit thicker
Makes me that much smarter
So thanks for making me a fighter”
28. My Lovin’ (You’re Never Gonna Get It) by En Vogue
29. Smile by Lily Allen
30. It’s Raining Men by The Weather Girls
31. Single Ladies (Put a Ring On It) by Beyonce
32. It’s My Life by No Doubt
33. Feel It Coming by Sara Melson
34. I Don’t Need a Man by The Pussycat Dolls:
“I don’t need a man to make it happen
I get off being free
I don’t need a man to make me feel good
I get off doing my thing
I don’t need a ring around my finger
To make me feel complete
So let me break it down
I can get off when you ain’t around Oh!”
35. Since U Been Gone by Kelly Clarkson
36. Single by Natasha Bedingfield
37. Shame for You by Lily Allen
38. Merry Happy by Kate Nash
39. Are You Fucking Kidding Me (Live) by Kate Miller Heidke :
If you don’t know this song, watch it on YouTube—the tone and inflection make the whole thing!
Here’s a preview if you don’t click through right now:
“All the memories are coming back to me now
All the ways you stole the light from my eyes
I traveled so far just to get away from you,
‘Till this morning’s friend request surprise
At times it really felt as though I’d never smile again
You narcissistic asshole, oh, you nasty, nasty man
And now You want to be my friend on Facebook
Are you fucking kidding?
I don’t want to know
What kind of cocktail you are,
Or which member of the Beatles
Or which 1950’s movie star
I don’t give a toss
If you’re a ninja or a pirate
I suspect you’d be a pirate,
But I don’t want to verify it
And I don’t give a shit
What your stripper name is
Or if your kitty had a litter
Look, just follow me on Twitter,
I don’t care about your family tree
And I certainly don’t want you poking me!”
It’s the absolute perfect song to end The Breakup/GirlPower Mix for sure!
Note: No boys were harmed in the making of this playlist.
Second note: This post is dedicated to Nicole Miale, a co-creator of the list and the person most likely to mirror my love-life craziness at any given time!